Sunday, November 04, 2012

A really, really long way of saying "we arrived safely" :-)


We are in our new home in Colombia! It doesn’t feel that far away, despite the long haul to get here. Exiting the airport into the crowd felt so familiar. The ambiance of Bogota reminds me a lot of Lima, except that Lima is sea level and Bogota is what, 8,000 feet? Enough that we’re feeling it, anyway. Huge, bustling, noisy, smoggy city with riches, poverty, and “getting by well enough” rubbing shoulders on each corner.

Our neighborhood is near the University and a lot of Mennonites live here, apparently. It’s a quiet nook of a neighborhood with small groceries dotted throughout and a little park with a playground just half a block from our building that the kids LOVE.

Our building is a four-story brick apartment building with purple bougainvillea foaming over the gate. We have six keys, two gates, and three deadbolts to get through every time we want to go in and out. Oh, and a flight of steps since we are on the 2nd floor. We’ve met our neighbors briefly – a family with tween/teen kids – and they seem very nice. There’s a small patio for parking cars and bikes, but the kids like to pretend it’s the ocean and they are fish swimming away from the ‘octopus’ (me) to hide under the huge spreading potted plants in the corner. Our bedroom overlooks this patio and yesterday I saw an emerald-green hummingbird darting around the plants briefly.

Our apartment is spacious and well-lit, although the lay-out is very odd. A number of the inside walls are set in at non-right angles, and there are some slightly awkward nooks the intended functions of which are unclear. But the kids seem to like it; a lot of furniture left over from previous MCCers is stacked in one corner and we unearthed a box of children’s books that also contained four My Little Ponies. Valerie keeps asking where they came from, I think their appearance was like magic to her.

We’ve been incredibly warmly welcomed by the MCC team here. We arrived late Thursday night and were met by two volunteers – I was so bummed the battery on my camera ran out, because we’d stacked the four suitcases on a cart and then Terry perched the kids on top of the stack of suitcases and they were just too cute sitting there riding backwards.

Friday we all went to the office together for a celebratory lunch – cookout on the roof (including an AMAZING quinoa salad and fresh-squeezed guava juice). The office occupies most of a four-story building, an old home not too far from where we live. We got to meet the MCCers who are based in Bogotá although I’m still putting together names, faces, and service assignments. After lunch we had a short meeting during which both kids fell asleep on my lap… fortunately we were able to transfer them to a bed upstairs (there are two guest rooms here for out-of-town service workers who are passing through the capital). We also met the very sweet woman who will be providing us childcare.

Saturday we puttered around the house sorting ourselves out, went to the playground, and had lunch at the home of the MCCer who has been our primary guide, and her hostess/housemate, an older Colombian woman affiliated with the Mennonite church. More amazing food (potato soup with capers, cream, and shredded chicken; fresh-squeezed passion fruit juice) and great conversation.

Today (Sunday) we went to the Mennonite church that Terry and I had visited in 2007; it was nice to be in a familiar-ish place even though I didn't really know anybody. People kept coming up to Terry and commenting on how much he looks like Vern :-).

I have to say that it’s SOOOOOO NICE to be fluent in the language. There are a few differences in accent and vocabulary but wow. I can just, like talk to people. Terry still tends to default to Albanian so I have to translate for him sometimes. The kids are very receptive to learning new words in Spanish, so I hope that comes along quickly for them. 

Valerie has been talking a lot about Tirana but overall the kids both are doing really well. Of course when they get tired or hungry they get a little fragile, but for the most part they seem to be having a lot of fun. I think they’re really enjoying getting so much time and attention with Daddy.

We have internet at our apartment but it’s super-slow and not very reliable… so that’s mostly why it took me so long to post anything here. We’re going to get a different kind of connection… eventually… so hopefully I’ll be able to blog more often before too long.

I have tons of great photos to post from our time in the US, too! Little by little...

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Tomorrow


Photo: Arrival in Dulles Airport 4/9/12

So, here we go again! Our two(ish) months in the States flew by... and tomorrow (barring complications) we'll be headed south for a new adventure. 

Photo: mid-flight on Turkish Airlines

I still haven't downloaded my photos from our trip to NY to see family and stop by Cornell, but it was a good trip (albeit highly compressed!) I hope to have those up soon.

Today was a full day packing, taking care of loose ends, voting (!!! we were able to vote in person by going to the city registrar and filling out applications for absentee ballots, which they gave us then and there and we just filled them out and slid them into the counting machine). (I was super excited about that.)

More soon as time permits... almost too much to process right now!

Thursday, October 11, 2012

Zoo (and Visas!)


We are very excited to have our visas to Colombia in hand! I’m still not completely sure whether or not it was necessary for us to take the kids with us to the consulate in DC, but we did, and it turned out to be a [mostly] fun family outing both last Friday when we submitted the applications, and this Wednesday when we went back to pick up the visas. Overall the whole process went smoothly, aided I’m sure by Gabriel’s dimple when he returned the restroom key for me to the woman behind the counter at the consulate.

Both days, we drove to the Metro station in Vienna, loaded the kids into the double stroller that I am SO glad I decided to bring, and made our way into DC. The kids loved riding the train (what kid doesn’t?) At the consulate, Terry entertained the kids while I interacted with the consulate staff (all in Spanish). MCC staff in the US, Canada, and Colombia all provided different pieces of instruction, advice and supporting documentation that got us through without any major hitches. We were given 2-year religious visas because MCC in Colombia works entirely through the Mennonite and Brethren churches there. (One piece of advice we were given beforehand: “dress like missionaries!”)

Since the consulate is on the same Metro line as the National Zoo, and since our kids love animals, and we’d never yet taken them, both trips then included a zoo visit. The second visit went much more smoothly than the first, to my mind, since we packed a lunch instead of waiting in a line for 45 minutes at the one cafeteria that was open like we did the first time (glacial pace + hot sun = grumpy mommy), only to get extremely expensive fried-and-over-salted food that was not very good anyway. So, word to the wise when you visit the zoo: PACK A LUNCH!

The kids’ favorite part of the zoo was the small mammal house. Valerie’s favorite animal there was the armadillo, trotting around on its little wee feet, though she was also a big fan of the meerkats. Gabriel could not be torn away from the naked mole rats scurrying blindly through clear plastic tunnels. Terry enjoyed making other zoo visitors laugh with his off-the-cuff humor (“Don’t you think those naked mole rats look exactly like Grandpa?” or “We’re going to play a game called Let’s Sit Quietly
For a Long Time”), and I enjoyed being outdoors and getting to look at amazing animals FOR FREE!

We have three weeks left in the US before our next big move and it just dawned on me that soon I’ll have to start thinking about packing again. I’m so glad and thankful for all the different pieces coming together. 

Wednesday, October 03, 2012

Whew!

It's been a crazy two weeks here since Terry got back... but good, in most ways. We're trying to cram so much into the time that we have. A lot of that time, though, is spent doing fun things with the kids - doing the rounds at nearby parks, visiting the Children's Museum about twice a week, going to the Farmer's Market, watching ducks.


And my sister and her two girls came to visit for a WHOLE WEEK! It was such a marked change from the last time we saw each other a year and four months ago - this time the kids really played together and she and I were able to have real, prolonged, in-depth conversations. Not without interruption, of course, but we could focus enough on what each other was saying to have some really satisfying times together.


(My camera and I got caught in the rain and now the shutter won't open all the way...)



And it was awesome watching the kids interact. There's nothing quite like cousins who are close in age. No other playmates develop quite the same vibe, I think. The first night after the cousins went back to their hotel, Valerie just sat staring out the window sadly, and every morning she would ask (in Albanian) "Ku është Solana? Ku ështe Lotus? Ku është Aunt Anita?" Gabriel was always ready to bestow hugs and kisses (which inevitably culminated with somebody - or everybody - getting knocked down). So it was awesome (chaotic, but awesome). And thanks to Dot for accommodating the extra chaos around the house!


The same day they left, I also left for my first trip ever away from Gabriel!!!!!!!! I was in Winnipeg for two days visiting the MCC Canada offices, since they fund the MCC programs in Colombia. It was a good time to meet a lot of people and get re-oriented to different facets of the work. Many MCC structures and procedures have changed quite a bit since my previous volunteer term (1995-1999 in Bolivia), plus in the country representative (director) role Terry and I will be handling new responsibilities. So it was a good visit.


I also got to see a good friend from MCC Bolivia days, Jodi Read (Hi Jodi!) whose PhD research overlaps a good bit with mine - related to the US/Mexico border - so that was a lot of fun (it would have been a lot of fun even if our research interests didn't overlap at all) ;-) and she showed me around the Forks area of Winnipeg which is super, super cool and I highly recommend you check it out sometime if you get the chance.

I will have to say that I did not realize prior to this trip how much milk Gabriel was still getting from me. *****Breastfeeding content ahead****** but it quickly became clear to me after about 12 hours that I had severely underestimated that, and I spent most of the trip in a LOT of pain as a result. I didn't have a pump with me, or really much opportunity or space for hand-expressing, but I did what I could and mostly just had to grin and bear it. Whenever we do get around to weaning (and since this is my last baby I'm not in a huge hurry) it will hopefully be a much more gradual process because wow. I have never felt so much sympathy for cows that miss a milking. Nor so happy to see my little calf again. Moo.

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

"Home"coming

Terry is right this minute en route to the US - I'm sure experiencing a mix of emotions similar to what the kids and I have been processing (or just watching a movie... or sleeping...) We're all super excited to have him back very soon.

I'm slowly starting to dig through my long list of things to do. Made some good headway this morning which felt great.

Photos soon :-)

Monday, September 10, 2012

Snow Shoes in Jello

We've been here six days, but it still doesn't feel like we've quite landed...

I realized that while I am navigating familiar and comfortable ground, that's not quite true for the kids. Valerie seems to remember a lot of things, but it's hard to gauge how clearly, and what the emotional dimension of the memories are for her. She feels thing intensely to begin with, so I watch her staring with her solemn little face out the window as we drive places and wonder what she is feeling. For Gabriel, it's all a new adventure. He's meeting the experience with a sense of play and adventure, but is also at that volatile 2-year-old stage where he'll instantly flip over into whining limp-noodle mode if he's a little tired or hungry. We've been doing fun things every day but they've also been more tired than usual - and of course recovering from jet lag (although I think we're just about back to normal on that front).

Grammy and Grandpa's house is a paradise of toys and books. We've been made very comfortable in the family room on our own king-size mattress, with space for a train set given to us by a friend whose kids have outgrown it, and our little toddler table with two matching chairs is the perfect place for eating meals or playing with play-dough.

I have a varied range of things I need to attend to; while I'm starting to chip away at my list, I often feel like I'm running as fast as I can through a pool filled with Jello. With snow-shoes on. (I stole that line from one of my elementary school yearbooks, but that's exactly what it feels like.) So much of my energy and attention is soaked up by the kids, which is exactly as it should be. I just wish there were two of me sometimes!

I'll post some photos once Terry gets here with my lap-top.

Thursday, September 06, 2012

We Made It!

So, that was an adventure!

21 hours door to door. 11 hours from Istanbul to DC. One mom, two little ones, and a sanity-saving iPad filled with apps for preschoolers.

It was pretty cool seeing Istanbul from the air, too bad that was all I saw other than a seriously confusing (if posh and shiny) airport.

We're still adjusting to the jet lag, slowly starting to re-acquaint ourselves with the 'Burg, and spending a lot of time exploring the wealth of toys and books at Grammy's house.

More soon when my brain starts working again!

Tuesday, September 04, 2012

Kuq e Zi

Okay, so it's a little over the top but this was one of the kids' favorite music videos on the "traditional" music channel here (I forget what Shqiptars call it, turbo-something). I can't find the lyrics but what I can make out says things like "Albania, my heart, there is no sweeter name," etc. etc. "Kuq e Zi" means "Red and Black" and refers not only to the colors in the flag, but also to a nationalistic movement that seeks to encompass all ethnic Albanians living in the surrounding area. My understanding is that many if not most of the singers in this video are Kosovar.


We've loved living here, learning to know the language, people, culture, and history of this place. I'm sending out a generalized thank-you to all Albania for your hospitality and kindness to us. We'll always carry part of your story in our hearts.

O sa mirë, më qen Shqiptar!

Saturday, September 01, 2012

Briefly, from Lebanon


Excerpted from an e-mail from Terry:

***
Lebanese are...energetic....hosts.  We drove up to Byblos - oldest continually inhabited city in the world, oldest port still standing.  Walked aroound old city, had a coffee at a cafe, walked some more, ate a huge meal at a nice restaurant overlooking the port, then drove to Harissa to climb a big Jesus statue for awesome view...at 11:00 p.m....and it was full of people....Lebanese don't live in our universe...:) [Editor's note: I can count on one hand the number of times I have been out after dark in the last 2 years]

Too tired to write a long and rambling analysis of Beirut, but just a quickie - one other meaning for the word "Holy Land".  It's not just the place where Jesus walked, etc.  It's also the place where there are literally thousands of religions all rubbing up against each other.  So a literal "Holy Land".  It was interesting to hear glimpses of lots of different flavors of Christianity that I hadn't heard of before.  Same for Islam.  

Also, I don't know why, but Lebanon seems to be just packed with ethnic groups from elsewhere - Syrians, Palestinians, Armenians, Sri Lankans (!?), etc. And people will often speak French...or Arabic...or Armenian...or Italian...or English... VERY different place from Albania.  

***
Super excited to be picking Terry up from the airport tonight!!!

Friday, August 31, 2012

Goodbyes are hard

Last night I pulled a sheet over myself instead of turning on the air conditioner. Last week I noticed that the angle of the shadows has shifted on the balcony, and the days are perceptibly shorter. The mornings are cool before the sun gets high. The arc of the sun across the sky is lower; it's only a few weeks until the Equinox.


Yesterday I packed up and mailed the first of about five boxes to books plus a few odds and ends to Colombia. All of a sudden it felt real - that we are leaving in a few short days. I almost started crying in a souvenir shop, and then I did start crying while watching Shpresa play with Gabriel.

By far the hardest part of leaving Albania, for me, is saying goodbye to Shpresa. Sure, I'll miss the ubiquity of local fresh fruits and vegetables, macchiato e gjate, roasted eggplant in everything (pizza! quesadillas!), learning Albanian; I'll miss Fun Cafe and the lake. I'll miss walking everywhere and the delicious range of fruit juices available. And I'll miss some of the women from church. But Shpresa has been like a sister to me, more than a friend. Her affection and care for our children has gone far beyond that of a paid employee.


I think part of it is just not knowing if or when we'll be able to come back, thinking of how much the kids will have changed if/when we do, wondering if Gabriel will remember her. She's almost like a second mom to him right now. She gave him his first "solid" food, she was there when he started walking. He talks to her in Albanian.


"It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all," right? I know our lives are richer for having shared them with her, and I hope she can say the same about us.


Tuesday, August 28, 2012

Petals

I had so much fun with my balcony garden this summer. I don't know the name of that succulent at the top, but it has thrived in the heat. In addition to the flowers, I also had a planter with mint, rosemary, and basil - just brushing by it smells so good.
Tomorrow night Terry leaves for one more trip - three days in Lebanon. He gets back Saturday night. I'm planning to spend the morning doing some souvenir shopping and taking a gift to my Albanian teacher.
Friday I'd like the kids to go to the pool so I can dig into the packing some more. In the evening some friends are coming over for pizza, another farewell-ish event.

Saturday more packing, and an evening with friends.

Sunday I hope to zip the suitcases shut and weigh them.
Monday I hope to have a quiet day without much to do except whatever we feel like doing. Hopefully go out somewhere, maybe go pick up Terry from work.
And Tuesday we leave.

Wow.

Monday, August 27, 2012

Lasts

I have butterflies in my stomach today - our last full week in Albania. 
Trying to cram everything in as the days slip by like water.


Saturday we rented a car and drove to Dajti
since Valerie refuses to get on the cable car anymore.


It was perfect - cool, quiet, sunlit, breezy, fun.


We totally wore the kids out - both of them fell asleep in the car on the way home.


(I think this white horse was pregnant. I felt bad!)

 I know, I know, no helmets. What can I say. 

We're treating G. for giardia. V. probably has it too, but no symptoms. She's not eating anything except pizza and milk, but that seems to be due to something in her mouth since she'll only chew on the left side. Wish we could get a good look. Otherwise we're doing pretty well, all things considered! Down to the wire!

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Inventive


This is from this past winter - it was so cool, Samueli made a self-propelling little car out of an empty toilet paper roll, a balloon, a straw, four plastic caps, and two Q-tips. The kids loved playing with it although they needed help blowing up the balloon again!

Pulley


Tuesday, August 21, 2012

And More Packing

I didn't think I was stressed, until I developed a headache last Tuesday that lasted four days. I thought it was lack of sleep, so made sure I got a super-long nap. Headache still there. I wondered if it was my glasses (I really need to get bifocals). But then Saturday and Sunday I took a holiday from even thinking about packing - and the headache vanished by midmorning Saturday. I even ended up giving myself the day "off" on Monday, and didn't start sorting through bins of toys until today, Tuesday (glad to say the headache has not come back so far).

In a way we're still far enough out that for the most part it's just normal daily life.



We had a great weekend, taking the kids to parks and mall playgrounds. We totally wore them out, it was awesome.



Right now it's all feeling doable. I have boxes of books and toys to ship to Colombia, boxes to ship to the US, and boxes to give away. I'm giving away stacks of books, and household items we bought here. I've started talking to Valerie about the new home we'll be going to in Colombia, so that's slowly starting to sink in. She hopes there is a balcony with plants on it (note to self: check on that...) There are dozens of tiny little decisions and in each case I hope I'm guessing right about what's most important to the kids. This morning Valerie asked for a toy that's currently in storage at Aunt Gin's - a giant colorful caterpillar that we call Mr. Peekaboo - at least I could tell her where it was, and it was understandable to her, and she is fine because she knows she will see it again soon.


Gabriel has been fussy and sensitive the past couple days. I'm not sure if it's an intestinal thing or that he senses a shift in the wind. He's been very clingy and wanting to nurse a lot.

It breaks my heart a tiny little bit every time he says something in Albanian. 


I guess we knew the risks when we came.

Friday, August 17, 2012

Packing


I actually like packing. I like sorting things into categories. I like the 3D puzzle of suitcases and boxes. I LOVE getting rid of stuff. Sometimes I overdo it and get rid of things I wish I hadn't, later, but that's rare. "When in doubt, throw it out." I'm married to a pack rat so that balances things out a bit...

Today I sorted out the kids' books. Shpresa's son Samueli is helping me put things in boxes, creating labels, scouting dumpsters for cardboard boxes discarded from grocery stores. I have boxes of books to mail to Colombia, boxes to mail to the US, and a short stack of books that will go with us in our luggage. Yesterday I took Valerie with me to the post office and UPS to compare shipping prices. 15-20 kilos costs about $75 to send to anywhere in the Americas by post, and 337 Euros by UPS. I think we're going to take our chances with the post office! I made a list of the books in the boxes just in case, though. I also did a quick check on Amazon to see if it would make more sense just to leave the books here and buy them again in the US - I have probably about $1,000 worth of books here.

I feel like we're in really good shape to be ready to leave in just over 2 weeks. It's nice not to feel too stressed out (so far!!!)!

Wednesday, August 15, 2012

Song and Dance

A couple times recently I forgot to take my camera along and missed some cute moments. So I’ll have to write about them instead.

About 10 days ago we attended the birthday party of a little friend from church who turned three! It was a tea party so we brought little tarts and cheese-sprinkled bread sticks from the bakery across the street. The children’s table was set beautifully and they all had a chance to practice pouring “tea” (cold water) from our hostess’s collection of teapots from all over the world, after the requisite rendition of “I’m A Little Teapot.”

I was so surprised when my normally reserved girl jumped up at the front of the crowd and sang out with the song, a huge smile on her face! She did the motions and everything. I think she was so excited to recognize a song I’ve sung to her dozens of times – but it was the first time I’ve ever heard her produce it!

She also did an expert job pouring (we’ve been using a neti pot to water the plants outside so I guess she was getting some good practice there), and sang out with “Happy Birthday” later on.

The kids just had so much fun. They also enjoyed taking turns in the hammock on the balcony and ringing the wind chimes. Valerie still asks me to “tell the story about when we went to Abby’s birthday party” every night at bedtime, and we play “birthday party” with big round pieces of bread and candles every day at home!





Another day Valerie and I walked (!!!!!!! Remember this is Stroller Girl we’re talking about – whose comfort object long after we arrived in Albania was her stroller) to the lake to look for a shoe we’d lost a couple days earlier. We didn’t find the shoe, but we enjoyed the walk. When we got there, she had fun throwing little dirt clods into the water until a young dog – still in that rollicking puppy stage – came bounding towards her; she got a little scared, but didn’t cry. Then we climbed up on a concrete block (remnant of something) and she wanted to do the Chicken Dance, which I taught her in a moment of boredom some time ago.

It was one of those I-can’t-believe-I’m-doing-this moments, standing by an artificial lake in the capital of Albania, doing the Chicken Dance with my daughter. But it was fun.

And then we walked home for supper. 

Friday, August 10, 2012

Saying goodbye

I realized this week that we have less than a month left in Albania. Exact travel dates haven't been set yet, but we're thinking that the kids and I will return to the US the first week in September (Terry will come a little later after wrapping up some projects here and closing down the apartment).

As TCKs, Terry and I have had a lot of experience with transitions like these, so we will need to draw on that wisdom for shepherding our kids through it. Even though Gabriel has really only known life in Albania - except for our 2-week trip to Akron - after a few years he won't remember this phase of our life as a family at all. And that's a really strange thought.

It's been a pleasure raising him from tiny baby to two-year-old here.

You'll be hearing more about this transition in the coming weeks, I'm sure. For now I want to share a song my sister and I used to sing over and over again when we were kids:



Saying goodbye, going away
Seems like goodbye's such a hard thing to say
Touching a hand, wondering why
It's time for saying goodbye

Saying goodbye, why is it sad?
Makes us remember the good times we've had
Much more to say, foolish to try
It's time for saying goodbye
Don’t want to leave, but we both know
Sometimes it's better to go

Somehow I know we'll meet again
Not sure quite where, and I don’t know just when
You're in my heart, so until then
Wanna smile, wanna cry
Saying goodbye
La la la la la la la la
It's time for saying goodbye

Thursday, August 09, 2012

Enjoying the struggle


Sometime about two months ago or so, I was sitting in the living room with my family and I looked around and realized… I’m relaxed. I’m relaxed, at home, with my family. And yet, everyone is awake...! And I realized that it’s been about, what, four years? Since I’ve felt that way.

I’m not sure if it’s because the kids have hit a developmental stage where they can play more independently, or because something has shifted internally in the way I approach parenting, or a little of both. Up until this point, parenting has been for me a source of constant tension – always worrying about what and whether they’re eating, timing their sleep just right, wondering in just what ways I'm doing permanent damage to their psyches, and of course the ever-present risk of bodily harm as they careen through a world full of sharp corners and hard surfaces. Short of raising them inside a padded room, though, I didn’t really see any other way to do it.

When we were in Akron I heard a quote that began to revolutionize the way I think about my role as their parent: “children are hard-wired for struggle.” And I thought, wow, that’s true. That’s how we learn. Remove from their world all struggle and pain, and you remove the opportunity for them to learn and grow up to be resilient, adaptable, resourceful individuals. Not only is it impossible, but it’s actually not good for them. They are born with the inner resources to meet the challenges of life and grow through the struggle. It’s my job to nurture them through that process in a timely manner, to judge what struggles they’re ready for, to coach them through it. Not over or around it. Through it.

The tension and fear that has shadowed me as I shepherd them through life is abating somewhat. I find that these moments of relaxation are becoming more frequent and longer in duration. I still find myself at times drawing in to that place of tension and fear, that robs me of my breath and joy. I remind myself to breathe, to shake it off. (This is something I’ve been working on a bit with my sister-in-law who just started a business as a life-coach, she’s fabulous – I highly recommend her!)

This is who I want to be as a parent: patient, playful, positive, and peaceful. I’m also looking for a word that starts with P that means teaching – pedagogic? Professorial? Not sure those capture the idea – but focusing on these notions has recently helped me recently as I confront trying moments.

When Valerie was born, someone said to me “Enjoy your baby.” I want to remember to do that every day. Enjoy my children.  



Friday, August 03, 2012

Things Kids Say

About a month ago, Gabriel started talking. ConstantlyWhat used to be a series of cute little grunts - so fitting that V calls him Piglet - are now words - and even sentences! Here are a few recent gems:

I was singing "Rock a Bye Baby" as I put him to bed, and he started chiming in along with me:
"Rock... baby... tree top... APPLES!"
(Me:) "Apples? Is the baby picking apples? Is the baby eating apples?"
"Baby eat apples tree top!"

The kids were pretending to spray water on me from the vacuum cleaner hose, so I played along - "Aaa! I'm getting all wet!" So Gabriel trots out of the room saying "Get! Mama! Towel! Get Mama towel!" I hear the little pitter-patter of his feet going down the hall to the bathroom. "Get Mama big towel!" Then a short silence. Then, "Get Mama liddow towel! Get Mama liddow towel!" as he comes back, dragging his own little yellow towel, which incidentally is soaking wet from mopping up some spill or other, leaving a long trail of damp across the tile floor. Oh my heart, so cute.

And always the joker:
Me: Say "I love you, Mama."
G: I lo-lo... DADA! [big laugh]
Me: No, I love you Mama!
G: I lo-lo you... VAL-VAL! [bigger laugh]
Me: No, I love you Mama!
G: I lo-lo... DOG! [biggest laugh, followed by tickle-fest]


They also invented this awesome game - mostly V but now G is really into it too.

First they crouch in the corner of G's room behind an open closet door. They are my baby mice and they are lost in the "cactuses." So I try to find them, and V coaches me if I get the words wrong: "Where are my baby mice? I miss them so much! Are they behind the curtain? Are they in the fan? Are they in the dollhouse? Where are they?" etc. Then they both start fake-crying (which is HILARIOUS). "Oh, there you are! I found you! I found you!" Then I have to put them both in the "submarine" (G's crib) "to get the itchies and ouchies off." Then I take them out and hang them on the clothesline by their ears (for pretend - I lay them on the bed actually). Rinse, repeat!

Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Beach Day!

Terry's team from work had a day retreat at the beach on Friday and we got to go along! It was the same beach we visited in March - but it looks very different now in the middle of beach season!

One of Terry's co-workers brought her two kids as well - a 10-year-old girl and 9-year-old boy. The girl loves little kids and speaks a fair amount of English, so she and Gabriel really hit it off. Valerie enjoyed them too though she was more shy and mostly did her own thing digging in the sand. Although she was very impressed when the boy buried his feet in the sand!




SPF 50!

Gabe LOVED going in the waves with me! I thought he'd be scared but he wasn't at all. He didn't like the sea grass getting stuck in his toes though. He loved crashing into the waves and wanted to sit by himself in the surf (which he did not get to do). When we went back in to our beach chair I saw I'd been gripping him so hard I left a red mark from my fingers!


Valerie called the boardwalk a "maze" and liked running back and forth between me and the cafe where Terry was in his meetings. 

The boy loves chocolate, and he loves ice cream, so chocolate ice cream = a little bit of heaven!

Monday, July 30, 2012

Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Tirana summer

I'm not sure how much you'll hear from me in the next week or so - it's always feast or famine around here, isn't it? Shpresa, our nanny, is away at a church retreat for the next 10 days so my only internet time is while Gabriel is napping (yes, after faking me out for 3 days he went back to his usual mid-day nap). Valerie is playing with Terry's iPad right now - we got a bunch of learning-to-read and beginning math apps that she enjoys a lot. Maybe too much... subject for another post!

Anyway, we have lots of fun things planned for the coming days - trips to Fun Cafe, the pool, Twisty Slide park, Dada's office, maybe even the amusement park one day. Pool time on the balcony. Running up and down the hall with balloons, jumping on the couch, drawing on the floor with markers. Good times ahead!


Sunday, July 22, 2012

Friday, July 20, 2012

Gaza Field Visits

Terry comes home tonight! So I'm going to post another of his e-mail reports. This is a really long one (although Terry described it as a "quick note") but I found his descriptions of visiting farmers and WV projects in Gaza really fascinating, a little glimpse into another world. I wish I'd sent the camera along with him! 

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Overall, it was a fun day – not least because I got to go out of the hotel grounds, but also because I like hanging with farmers and chatting over coffee or tea.

So in the morning, I was picked up and after a quick office stop, we went out to visit some projects.  The security situation here is a little amped up so before I pop out to visits, the Office Security officer has to vet the area I am going to visit and see if there’s been any “activity” (usually Israeli incursions or bombing).  I was told that this morning on the east side of Gaza, there had been an incursion with tanks and a micro-bus was shot at – a Palestinian was killed and two were injured.  It was sort of treated by the staff as “just another day at the office” – although the one M&E officer (the woman) was a little upset about a Palestinian being killed (again).  Anyway, the areas we were going to visit were evidently okay, so we set off.

More protocol is that any outsiders (me) have to be accompanied by a driver and a security officer and only travel in a WV dedicated vehicle.  So in addition to my guide (the M&E officer for the ADP – a woman named Hajar who is really good), I had the driver and a security officer.  They were kind of bored with the site visits – they aren’t really into programming stuff – so it was funny to see them kind of lolling around complaining about the heat and the farms and stuff.

So this cavalcade set off.  The first visit was to a farmer who had had his greenhouse repaired by WV after it had been bombed by an Israeli incursion during the war.  The farmers here are pretty good.  The issues in Gaza aren’t like campesinos from the highlands settling in the selva or trying to do some micro-enterprise by getting people who’ve never gardened to do good gardening.  Rather, their approach is that the technical knowledge is present in the people, but the infrastructure keeps getting trashed by the bombing and war.  Replace the infrastructure and people will be okay.

So, for example, the first farmer we visited was part of a family of 5 brothers who managed 14 greenhouses of the nylon plastic and steel pipe variety.  They grew melons, tomatoes, cucumbers, and legumes in a rotating cycle.  Their grandfather had started the greenhouses, was passed on to their father, and now they were running it.  So it wasn’t like they were starting new.  It was interesting talking to the farmer.  He talked about how he experiments a bit each year by taking a single row of plants in his greenhouse and planting something new – to see how the production is.  If it works well in a single row, then he may expand it to his whole greenhouse in the cycle of plants they do.

Across the street his uncle had a potato farm and their big storehouse reminded me of the Phelps farm (except not cold).

We drank some Turkish coffee strongly flavored with cloves – really good.

The farms here are interesting because they are not really “rural” in the sense that we might think of farms – 1.5 million people live in Gaza strip.  The farms are more like 1-3 acre plots mixed around inside the city.  So in our first visit, it looked like we were in a neighborhood, turn a corner, and there are a bunch of greenhouses tucked away on a back alley.

The second visit was a farming family that was doing citrus trees.  Again, they had been farmers for a long while back, had had a greenhouse, but it was an old style greenhouse, not as efficient, so they converted to Citrus about 7 years ago.  WV helped them with some pruning and cleaning processes after the war when the trees had been sprinkled with phosphorus or something.  Their little farm was located in a rather nice neighborhood, shady with modestly nice houses.  I had asked about whether this was a nicer section of town and they said that this neighborhood was comprised of people who had used to work in Israel before all the blockade and war and they had earned pretty good salaries as workers.  The houses date from that time.  I think the family we visited was one of those that had had a worker in Israel who was forced back.  So the farm which had been a supplemental source of income became the primary source – causing a pinch.

The house was a pretty big villa type, but there were four families living in it now – the grandfather couple, their four children (married families) and the grandchildren.  They Gazans are interesting because they look working class, but there’s all this education rolling around in the background.  So for example, the lead farmer we were talking to had gotten degrees at the university in Economics and Political Science and three of the grandchildren were enrolled in university.

The impression I get is that this is an area that really goes against the archetype of “development” as progress from the noble savage to modern man, etc.  In reality, it’s a place that had a strong professional core, a solid foundation of farmers, a good university system, and a highly educated populace who have all been affected by the various wars and incursions and subsequent infrastructure destruction.  In one sense, what this means is that there’s a much better chance than in many places that “development” might actually work – meaning development as articulated through the Marshall Plan foundation.

At this second family, we drank a mint tea that was super strong and super sweet.  Tasted great.

The third site visit was a children’s center that had been started by 23 university grads who were trained in social work or children’s education and had gotten tired of working for NGOs or who weren’t happy with the lack of a children’s center.  So about three years ago, this cohort all chipped in on volunteer basis and started their own children’s center.  Everyone is a volunteer there and they have about 600 kids that come to the center – spread out into various shifts since they don’t have much space.  It was interesting just how empowered the kids acted though.  We sat down with about 6-8 kids who were excited, talked directly to Hajar and made direct eye contact.  You could see they were feeling their rights.  It was pretty cool.  I don’t know how long the center can last on purely volunteer basis, but it’s rather inspiring to see these young people put the time into the center.  They all work elsewhere and this is their volunteer time.  For example, the manager of the center is a young guy about 28 who works at the Italian embassy or consulate.  He was going to go to work at 3:00 after spending the morning at the center.  We were only given water to drink.

One side note about the women here – Gaza is a conservative Muslim context and all of the women wear the headscarves and the flowing long sleeved robes – usually black.  It’s also not that unusual to see the total burka look.  But what has struck me is how even with this conservative dress, the women aren’t particularly subservient or submissive.  Maybe it’s just the group I have interacted with, but the women will speak up, don’t act subservient around the men and will sort of hang out and chat casually with the men.  The ones I met are also highly educated – university degrees and such.  So that may be part of it, but still – it feels different from the horror stories about gender relationships you hear out of places like Afghanistan or Pakistan.  Maybe the key difference is that this is a population that had all been educated – including the women.  I don’t know.  Maybe more will emerge over the next few days.

The last visit was to a CBO that is a sports club for deaf young people.  It was started in 2005 after the Athens Special Olympics and has about 250 deaf members who come to the center to play different sports – including soccer.  This club just started a beachside café to help generate income for the club but to also give the deaf youth some opportunities for employment and training.  So we sat in the shade on the beach watching the waves do wavey things and chatted with the youth and the board members of the club.  I had asked about the profitability of the café and they admitted that it wasn’t really generating much profit, but it has gotten a LOT of publicity and it’s been great for the deaf youth to be able to run the café and learn business skills.  They said a lot of families with disabled members will come to this particular beachside café because they now consider it “theirs” – even the ones who aren’t members in the club.

It sort of looks like Gazans do the beach scene.  There are all these kiosks of bamboo and thatch up and down the beach with beach umbrellas and food and so forth.  My host told me that there used to be actual resorts and hotels along the beach, but during the war, these were all bombed and bulldozed by the Israelis to prevent them being used as bases for incursions – so now people just built everything from bamboo and thatch with netting because it’s easier to rebuild after a bombing.

One twist is that there are these little cubicles set up along the beach about 3 meters on a side, made of burlap and open to the sky.  I was told that families will come to the beach – usually in the cool of the day after noon - and rent one of these cubicles.  The purpose of the cubicles is so that the women of the family can have privacy and can take off their robes and headscarves and eat at the beach.  The young people hang out in the public area together, but these cubicles are the for the families and especially the married women.  We saw a family come down and rent one of those.  There were about 12 people or so ranging from grandfather to uncles to aunts to little kids.  They’d brought their own food in big baskets and they set up shop around one of the cubicles.  The men sort of lounged around outside while the women hung around inside and the kids ran back and forth.  There was one little kid about Gabriel’s age toddling around with his 7 or 8 year old sister and it made me go “awwww”.

We were there longer than I expected because they offered to get us some lunch – cooked by the deaf youth – “it will only take a half-hour, very fast” – ha ha – 2 hours later we were served.  It was great food though – the chicken was grilled and blackened with cloves making a really interesting flavor.  Then there were the usual suspects – humus and pita bread, tarator, and other dipping sauces.  If we ever move to Gaza, you’d better love humus.  The beginning of every meal is a bowl of humus and a pile of pita bread which is ripped and dipped in the humus.
  
By the time I got back to the hotel, it was about 3:30 or so.  By this time, I was pretty hot and salty from sitting at the beach for two hours (under a shade, but still) and so took a shower, and then tried to slog through the rest of the dark teatime of the soul.

Thursday, July 19, 2012

Video from G's Second Birthday

Am I stuck in a blogging moment that I can't get out of? The past two weeks have been very Bug-centric around here. I think that's ok. Valerie is really cute in this video too :-)




Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Crossing into Gaza and First Impressions


Further notes from Terry's trip to Gaza; this one about crossing the border and first impressions:

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So I'm in the hotel room now in Gaza after a fairly long day.  I'm pretty tired but wanted to take a shower and go down and get some food before going to bed.   
  
The ride [to Gaza] was interesting - heading south we went through more fertile landscape than the Tel Aviv/Jersulaem/West Bank rocky desert scene - in fact much of the trip down south through Israel proper reminded me of driving through Ohio or Iowa or something - very heartland looking from the road (Interstate quality), to the crops in the fields, to the small town infrastructure - just insert some palm trees and bougainvillea in rural Ohio (and write everything in Hebrew or Arabic) and you'd pretty much have the landscape we drove through.

...then we hit The Wall.  Talk about an experience.  So you basically are going through the Heartland, and suddenly "Whoomp" there's a big wall and checkpoint marking the border to the Gaza Strip.  It's a pretty serious crossing over exercise - you can't drive through - so the Taxi drops you off at Israeli side - you go through three separate Israeli checkpoints and four different turn-style gates - then you are walking across no man's land with the wall looming up behind you.  It's a pretty serious wall - maybe 30-40 feet high, razor wire and machine gun posts scattered across the top - it would be an Enver Hoxha [isolationist Albanian dictator] dream wall.

Walking across the No Man's land was quite the experience, I was on a covered cement walkway which was fenced in on both sides for a LOOOONG way.  The hot sun is beating down, the landscape is barren - except for razor wire and cement blockades - and I just walked and walked and walked.  Should have heard one of those hawk shrieks up in the sky that you get on movies to show the heroes have been walking for a really long time in the desert sun...it was probably about nearly a kilometer of walking to get to the end of the fence - just walking by myself away from the looming wall on this little concourse.  After I got out of the narrow fenced in walkway, then it was about another 500 meters on a beat-up sandy macadam road to the Palestinian side of the checkpoint.  I had to wait there until the WV security officer showed up, but he knew everyone and had the right documents and they were used to the WV crossovers (there are something like 50 iNGOs operating projects in Gaza so there are a fair number of foreigners that come over now and then).

The Palestine side was light years away from the Heartland.  Everything seriously sandy desert, decaying infrastructure - I saw a donkey cart go by the Palestine checkpoint while waiting and was thinking you wouldn't see that in the Heartland.  It sort of felt like going from the Heartland to an Indiana Jones movie.  The trip to the hotel on the Palestine side was pretty short - maybe 20 minutes - but the cityscape was one of those annoying ones that really felt familiar and reminded me of somewhere I'd been - but I couldn't name the place.  The hotel is right on the seaside (which would be cool if I was allowed to actually leave the hotel ever) and the drive along the coastal place really reminded me a lot of Somalia - but the plastic garbage litter really reminded me of Albania...and the Taj Mahal mosque just across the street from the hotel didn't really remind me of either.  So anyway, Gaza looks interesting.

And talk about a weird place to live - there's literally a 30 foot high cement razor wire wall with machine guns running the entire border of the Strip - no one is allowed in or out except with permits from BOTH the Israeli government AND Hamas (the current rulers of the Strip) - as you might imagine, there aren't a lot of people who get permission from both of those groups - although I did see a lot of people - maybe a few dozen - Palestinians coming through while I was hanging around the checkpoint, so I'm not sure what all the ins and outs are for moving back and forth - but let's say there's not really free movement.

Then, the Strip borders Egypt to the south and there are all these smuggling tunnels under that border which the Israelis more or less ignore unless the tunnels are used for weapons, then they collapse the tunnel - but all sort of goods and food are smuggled in - as well as people - I was told that there are five star tunnels that are lighted and you can drive a vehicle through, four star tunnels that are lighted with AC, three star tunnels with just lights, and so forth - so there's a bit of a system there.

Anyway - weird situation.  It will be interesting to learn more.  Oh, in addition - I'll be here for 10 days for the evaluation - the security officer here said that's the longest time he's ever heard of any foreigner staying here - he seemed kind of puzzled about what to do with me for that length of time since it's over a weekend - I think he was worried he'd need to baby sit me for the weekend...